Life is a series of cycles of change whether we like it or not. Change provides us the opportunity to re-adjust, reform and rebirth into another level of our being.
Change can be both comfortable and uncomfortable. It is welcomed and comfortable when it is change that we want and mostly uncomfortable when it is change that shifts us out of our comfort zone. Even for those of us who believe or have convinced ourselves “we like change” – we too resist change when we encounter curve balls in the way we expect ‘change’ to unfold.
And at times, we may also fall into the trap of convincing ourselves or pretending all is good just to avoid change. However, change is inevitable and finds its way to materialize.
“You must become the change you want to see in the world.” -Gandhi
Why befriend change:
1. Nothing lasts forever – When we accept the fact that nothing lasts forever, we are better equipped to flow with the motions of life. Struggle occurs when we resist reality. So, the best way to end the struggle is to embrace the impermanence in life. Enjoy the ‘good times’ and remember through the ‘not so good times’ that it is temporary and it too shall pass.
2. Wisdom is earned – Nothing of value was ever achieved by remaining stagnant. It is impossible. We learn and grow due to change. When we are faced with a situation that forces a change of some kind, our awareness is inevitably expanded. Whether we follow through on it or not, depends on the person. Wisdom is earned by learning to see the alternate possibilities of what surrounds us. When we view life through a narrow lens, our experience is limited. However, when we see the whole panorama, then wow…life is beautiful.
3. Learn to let go – Some people are meant to be in our lives for decades and others are meant to only stay for a while. This is one of the most challenging realities of life. We often take it personally when our close circle of people change, be it – friends, clients or even family. However, it is for our own good, it may need to happen in order for us to continue to grow and evolve. Not everyone is willing to be with us as we proceed on our journey in a certain direction. Some people may return as our journeys sync again in the future and others may not. So be it.
And on the other hand, some people may only like us when we have a certain title or look a certain way. That is okay. Let them be who they are but we need to keep on being true to ourselves. If we lose some people as we proceed on with our life, wish them well and let them go with love.
4. Change always leads to Good – Here is the reality about change: even though it may occur due to a negative event it inevitably leads to something good. Things happen to us for reasons. We may not always understand the reason of why they happened however they teach us valuable attributes and lessons of life. For example, painful experiences can teach us compassion and tolerance.
So how does one learn to befriend change?
Firstly, identify the reason for resistance to change. Mostly likely, the reason will be fear. Fear born from insecurities, past experiences, comfort of the known, etc.
Then break down and understand the core existence of that fear or reason of resistance and work through it to build a foundation of trust, trust in oneself as well as life itself.
When there is trust then it will be easier for one to develop another way of viewing situation’s in one’s life. Each event that happens in one’s life, has the ability to move one forward. The way one chooses to view a situation determines their experience.
Change your perception of change so you can flow with life easier. Change is a beautiful thing so view change as a joyous thing. To not embrace change, is to remain in stagnation, which results in no growth. Nothing can be accomplished by not moving forward.
The ability to go from resisting change to embracing change can happen. It may not happen overnight but that is okay. The next time you are faced with an experience which causes your reality to change, take a deep breath, be mindful of how you perceiving the change, review it (see the situation from ‘outside the box’) and take a step forward.
And it is okay to be mad or frustrated. You are human after all. But once the emotions have settled, give yourself permission to trust and flow with the change.
“It is not the strongest of the species
that survives, nor the most intelligent,
but the one most responsive to change.”
~ Charles Darwin
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